Philadelphia has some of the highest rates of STDs in the
country, and teenagers are affected the most. 1 out of 3 kids in
Philadelphia will get an STD during their teen years.
Talk to your kids about safer sex. Your kids want to
hear from you.
Tips for Talking
Parents can have a big impact on their teenagers when it comes
to healthy choices about sex.
Talking to your teenager about sex can be difficult and
uncomfortable, but he or she needs to hear from you.
Here are some tips:
Relax and take a deep breath. This is hard
work for you and your child. Don't get angry - don't give up. You
may save your child's life by helping him or her prevent a serious
Start early. Don't wait for your teenager to
ask questions. You should start the conversation. Your kids are
looking to you for good information.
Find teaching moments. Use things that come up
every day to talk about waiting to have sex, or using condoms if
your teen is already having sex. For example, if a TV program shows
a sex scene or your teen tells you about something that came up at
school about sex, you can use these moments to talk about safer
Be honest and give good information. Teenagers
need the facts so that they can make good decisions. Use this
website for good information on safer sex, condoms, and STDs,
Make this conversation normal. The more you
talk to your teen about safer sex, the easier it becomes for your
teen to talk openly with you about sex.
Tell them waiting is best. Let them know that
waiting to have sex is best. The longer teenagers wait to have sex,
the less likely it is that they will get an STD. If they choose to
have sex, teach them that safer sex is important.
Talk to your teenager about waiting to have sex. If they choose
to have sex, talk to your teenager about safer sex.
Safer sex means using a condom correctly every time a person has
sex. The best way to prevent STDs and HIV is to not have sex at
all. If your teen chooses to have sex, using a condom correctly
every time prevents STDs, including HIV.
Here are some ideas on how to keep your teenager safe from STDs
Tell them to wait. Waiting to have sex is an
important thing to talk to your teenager about. The only sure way
to prevent STDs and HIV is to not have sex. Teenagers who start
having sex at a younger age are more likely to get infected with
STDs and HIV.
Help them say no. Teens may only hear about
why they should have sex from their friends or partners. You can
tell them why to wait and how to say no. If peers are pressuring
your child to have sex, he/she may need to say something like "my
mother/father will be really angry if I start having sex/get a
disease." Sit down with your teen and pretend you are a partner and
act out the conversation that your teen will have. Help them know
what lines to use to say no.
Tell them to use a condom. Even if your teen
isn't having sex, talk to your teenager about using a condom
correctly every time. Condoms are the only form of birth control
that prevent STDs, including HIV. Even teens who wait should know
about condoms and know where to get them. Teens who are having sex
need to have a condom with them at all times.
Tell them where to get condoms. You can give
your teenager condoms, keep condoms in the house, or you can teach
them about the different places where they can get condoms. There
are FREE condom sites listed on
our Condom Map that are open to everyone. Teens can also get FREE condoms mailed to
Be a helper. Your teen may only come to you if
s/he knows it's okay to talk with you. Let them know it is okay to
ask questions. If he/she gets an STD, you want to be sure it gets
treated. If she gets pregnant, you want to be sure she gets the
care and help she needs.
STDs and Condoms
There are many STDs, including HIV. Know the facts, and be ready
to talk to your teenager.